We had an acquaintance once who needed a place to stay for several weeks. During those weeks that he and his wife stayed with us we quickly found out that he did not believe in owning a T.V. set. So out of regard for him our T.V. stayed off while he was there. (He believed T.V. was an insult to peoples intelligence) We had many intesting conversations during the time our guests stayed with us. (They were not Christadelphians, by the way). One of his favorite expressions was "It's all relative". For example: a choice made by someone may seem quite sensible to that person; yet to an observer it may seem absurd, or a display of a lack of common sense. His reasoned that both could be right--perhaps one person just couldn't imagine making a certain choice; whereas the unknown circumstances and variables (which mostly would only be known by God and the person making the choice) would make it the correct or acceptable choice for someone else.

What are we really saying

The purpose of this expression "They don't have any commonsense" may possibly really be meant to make it appear, rightly or wrongly, that the person speaking has a great deal of common sense. And indeed is someone who should be looked up to as a fine example of common sense. At least that is the question we should ask ourselves when we find ourselves about to speak those words. In speaking such words, are we really attempting to glorify ourself?

An older brother once wrote "There is SO MUCH that we don't know". He was referring to our quickness of the "thinking of the flesh" to want to judge the action or choices of others.

We have all been guilty at one time or another of unfairly judging others. (Yes, including myself, just ask my husband.) It makes great and fun gossip, but such discussions do not "help our brother on the road". God sees and knows all - we do not. We should all, including me again, be more careful and remember the choices and actions of others, which may seem absurd to us, may entail variables and circumstances which indeed are known and acceptable to God. And in his eyes our voicing dissaproval may look very foolish.

Perhaps this would call for self examination and a change to a more profitable and uplifting topic of discussion. Indeed, there is SO MUCH we just don't know - lets strive to pull ourselves up to Gods way of thinking, rather than striving to pull God down to our imperfect way of thinking and behaving. And the more we read of him the more we grow to realise how perfect and loving his ways are, as we strive to reflect that love in our lives.

Sister Kay Phillips
First published in Encouraging Words March 2001