Sisters and Anger


Life has changed dramatically since brother and sister Roberts were alive, yet very few books have been written specifically for sisters since sis. Roberts penned a few booklets such as The Virtuous Woman. Because of this fact, and the fact that I have picked up some knowledge about life on my walk kingdomward that I would like to share, I plan to write a few essays on subjects that I believe are of importance to sisters today.

Even though we have more conveniences available to us to ease workload than the sisters of yesteryear, the pace of the world has sped up at an alarming rate, leaving us often feeling overwhelmed and frustrated by the duties we need to perform. It is not unusual for a sister to hold down a job, care for her parents, her household, and be a bookkeeper, laundress, and chauffeur.

God's view of our Anger

Can you remember what your reaction was the last time a plan was thwarted or control of a situation was lost? More than likely, a fiery emotional outburst showed everyone exactly how you felt about the situation. No matter how normal or well warranted this reaction may seem, though, we sisters should not lose sight of how our Heavenly Father views the use of negative behavior to show how we feel.

Prov. 25:28 states, He who hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls." James 1:20 goes even farther into the problem of anger. "For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.

The need for change

We must remember that we are absolutely worthless to God if we continue to solve our problems in the way of the old man of sin. God tells us, in no uncertain terms, that we must relinquish our angry behavior to Him. The question is how do we change our angry reactions? Believe me, this question had me stymied for years. I tried everything including bottling up my anger and then exploding at the smallest incident. That certainly did not work very well, and in the end I became a control freak. The truth of the matter is that at the moment we lose our tempers we lose control of our selves and are irrational. Well, we have all heard of the phrase, "Let go and let God". It sounds oversimplified, yet it does work, if you work it the way God intends it to be worked. God requires us to control our actions and reactions in all situations. That is it. Just think how doing this one thing could change all of relationships, including ours with God. As long as we can master the flesh and become more Christlike in our behavior toward others we will never have to feel guilty or responsible when something in the life of another sours. We must learn to do what we can and let God handle the rest.

Changing Angry Behavior

Well, how do we begin to change our behavior? Here are five steps we can enact.

  1. Start by planning a slowdown. For example, If you work outside of the home, plan or even fixed meals ahead of time so you can sit and rest for a while before tackling the chores that await you.
  2. Put on some soothing or uplifting music.
  3. Go on a news and violent drama show restrictive diet. Too much of that sort of thing can prime the anger well.
  4. Indulge in a bit of exercise such as taking a leisurely walk.
  5. Finally, all this should have you ready to study the Scriptures with a more receptive mind. Believe me it works. Try eliminated all material stuff out of your life that you do not need. The less you have, the less you have to worry about, move, or clean.

Most importantly, though, is that I am only responsible for my actions and even when it is very hard not to meddle where I do not belong, I let the Lord take over. Sometimes when we meddle in somebody's business we are getting in God's plans for that person.

When our Lord was arrested and abused before his death, he could have called upon legions of angels to save him and he could have spewed forth some harsh words, but he took control of his reactions to the situation he was in. He did not want to be there, but he knew his behavior was in the will of his Father.

Sis.Linda Brown